Everything in your life is either growing or wilting.

• Your skills
• Your hobbies
• Your relationships with friends, family, and coworkers
• The groups you belong to

What determines which direction something goes is simple: attention. Neglect isn't passive. Every time you don't tend something, you're making a choice by default. You're not "too busy" to call your friend; you're choosing to let that friendship wilt in favor of something else.

So the most important question you can ask yourself is: is your attention going where your values are?